Archive for July, 2009

Being and Somethingness

Sunday, July 5th, 2009

I have learned the difference lately, between being alive…and living. Right now, I feel like I’m the former rather than the latter. It, and conversations with some friends lately that have brought me to some conclusions that I’ve always known but never put down in black and white anywhere…

It is more important to actually…
BE a good person, than to appear to be a good person.
BE a good parent, than to appear to be a good parent.
BE a good friend, than to appear to be a good friend.

You can no doubt see where this is going. Appearances are decieving…and all too often, we may worry too much about appearing to be the right thing, rather than putting the focus on BEING the right thing. I know my focus needs to be on starting to LIVE again, but right now, I’m just alive. Barely breathing. I know also, that eventually I’ll get there, because my life can’t be over at 41.

I would venture to say, we should all worry much less about appearances…and worry more about making sure we are BEING and and that it means something.

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