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Being and Somethingness

I have learned the difference lately, between being alive…and living. Right now, I feel like I’m the former rather than the latter. It, and conversations with some friends lately that have brought me to some conclusions that I’ve always known but never put down in black and white anywhere…

It is more important to actually…
BE a good person, than to appear to be a good person.
BE a good parent, than to appear to be a good parent.
BE a good friend, than to appear to be a good friend.

You can no doubt see where this is going. Appearances are decieving…and all too often, we may worry too much about appearing to be the right thing, rather than putting the focus on BEING the right thing. I know my focus needs to be on starting to LIVE again, but right now, I’m just alive. Barely breathing. I know also, that eventually I’ll get there, because my life can’t be over at 41.

I would venture to say, we should all worry much less about appearances…and worry more about making sure we are BEING and and that it means something.

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6 Responses to “Being and Somethingness”

  1. StL Muse Says:
    July 6th, 2009 at 8:12 am

    Even though our current situations are so very far apart, both literally and figuratively, your words in this post have more meaning to me in relation to my life right now than I could even begin to explain.

    These are words to live by, they are very wise and very true…also surprisingly difficult to keep in focus.

    When you’re up for it, you’ll start living again. I don’t know you extremely well, but you aren’t NEAR done living at 41!! You exude life and light, I don’t know if you realize that or not, but you do.

  2. tiggerprr Says:
    July 6th, 2009 at 9:32 am

    Thank you…and yes…it IS hard to keep in focus…so hard to just, Be. Something to work on though, for all of us, no matter our situation. :)

  3. Desert Songbird Says:
    July 6th, 2009 at 12:35 pm

    Sometimes it takes all we are just to be alive; living takes more than what we have at the moment. It is key, however, that you see the difference, and in your own time, you can make the change, bit by bit, from being alive to really living.

    You’ll make it.

  4. Travis Says:
    July 6th, 2009 at 1:32 pm

    In your own time.

  5. Colin B. Says:
    July 13th, 2009 at 1:15 pm

    There is no right or wrong with these things. I want to echo what Travis said above me. In your own time.

    Thinking of you! *hugs* xx

  6. Leslie Says:
    July 19th, 2009 at 5:24 pm

    Yes. Yes! I needed to read this post today. And I just want you to know, my thoughts are with you.

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