tiggerprr’s scratching post

This move has been a life lesson for sure. Hell, this YEAR has been a life lesson. As new people come into my life and old ones return, I’ve been learning lately about simple math. Not the addition, subtraction, multiplication kind… we all know I suck at that. But instead, whether or not people add things to your life or take them away. Some people do neither.

So I’ve been thinking a lot today about that. Am I adding anything to my friend’s lives? Are they adding anything to mine? Do I have to keep certain people in my life, just because they’re there? The answer to the last question, is no. I like to think that I add something, even something small, to those I have interactions with. It’s definitely something to work towards, being a better person and all. There are a few people I wonder about whether or not they should be allowed to be a part of my life. I think I know the answers to those questions, but it’s hard sometimes when you like them. Some people are just toxic though…and when you’ve been through the hell that’s been my life this year, you really need to surround yourself with lightness instead of darkness and drama. It’s a tough thing to put into action though, when you’re a fixer, like me. I want to fix everyone’s problems and unhappiness. All that’s ever gotten me is unhappiness and frustration because people need to want to be better people on their own, not because you’d like them to be or even when you need them to be.

I need to get better at setting boundaries with people. People can only do to you, what you let them do. So that’s my me project for now…setting boundaries and limitations on behaviour, both mine and others who I choose to let into my circle. Thinking about what I’m adding to others and who’s adding to me…and who’s not.

P.S. And a tiny lesson about blogs for a certain someone… this is MY blog… I can discuss whatever I choose to here. Period.